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Your First 90 Days
A 12-Week Pre-Commitment Workbook for New Relationships
The first 90 days teach you who someone is. What you do with that is still up to you.
For the person in a new relationship who wants to be deliberate about what they are building before momentum makes the decisions for them.
The Name It First Experience
New relationships move fast. But momentum carries you past the conversations that matter — values, patterns, deal-breakers. This workbook is a 12-week process for being deliberate in the early stage of a relationship. You produce the 90-Day Foundation Agreement: a signed document naming what you learned, discussed, and agreed to. The output is not overthinking. It is intention.
You can opt into 30-, 60-, and 90-day check-ins from your account. We recommend you do — the point is to see what changed.
Sample questions
- What do you already know about this person that makes you want to keep showing up — the specific things, not the general feeling?
- What pattern are you already noticing in yourself in this relationship — something that feels familiar from before?
- What would The First 90 Days Charter say about what both of you are committing to before the relationship becomes a habit rather than a choice?
Research basis
Gottman (Sound Relationship House, early formation) / Bowlby (secure base) / Fletcher & Simpson (relationship initiation)
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Every format asks the same questions and produces the same document.
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A real book and a pen. Write in the margins. The most permanent version of you on a page.
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The full guide on any screen, with a companion journal to write your answers by hand.
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Audiobook
We read every question and every scenario aloud. For the commute, the walk, the dishes.
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The keepsake edition — sewn, ribboned, made to sit on a shelf and be returned to.
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Answer on screen. Your responses save as you go and assemble into your finished document.
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Hands-Free Interactive + membership+membership
Listen to each question and speak your answer. We capture it. You never touch a keyboard.
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Choose your pace.
The Essential path takes you to your finished document by the questions that matter most. The Full-depth path walks every question, every scenario, every angle. Both produce the same signed document — one just goes deeper on the way there.
Essential path
Shorter sessions. The questions that go directly to the document.
Full depth
Every question. Every scenario, every angle.
Partner Pair
Built for two. You each work your own copy, on your own time — then you bring them together and compare, one answer at a time.
The comparison is the conversation.
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