Workbook
Where You Came From
A Workbook for Mapping the Patterns Your Family Gave You — and Deciding Which Ones You Keep
This workbook produces a documented family map — every inherited pattern named, and a decision made about each one.
For the person who keeps running scripts they didn't write and has never mapped where those scripts came from.
The Name It First Experience
The patterns running your life were written before you were old enough to choose them — this workbook is where you choose. Where You Came From walks you through the beliefs, behaviors, and unspoken rules your family installed — how money works, how conflict gets handled, what love looks like, what is never said — and asks you, for each one, whether you want to keep it. It is for the person who recognizes their family's patterns in their own reactions, their own relationships, their own reflexes — and wants to decide deliberately which ones belong in the next chapter. You finish with a documented family map — every inherited pattern named, every source traced, and a clear decision made about what you carry forward.
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Sample questions
- What did your family teach you without ever saying it out loud — about money, about conflict, about love?
- Which script from your family are you still running that you have never consciously chosen?
- What makes you happy in your relationships that you trace to something your family gave you?
Research basis
Grounded in narrative identity theory (McAdams, 1993) on the personal myth and the role of origin story in self-coherence / intergenerational transmission research (Bertaux and Thompson, 1993) on how family histories shape individual self-concept / genealogical inquiry literature on the psychological benefit of locating oneself within a larger human continuity.
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