Interactive
When They're Being Mean
Your friends are leaving someone out on purpose — go along with it, or say something?
Decide which matters more: friendship or meanness.
For the Children ages 6 to 10 who are learning what it means to be a good friend when being a good friend might cost you your place in the group. Also for caregivers and teachers who want to have this conversation before it happens — because it will happen.
The Name It First Experience
Your friends are leaving someone out. Not by accident — on purpose. They're laughing. You know it's not right. But if you say something, you might be the next one left out. In When They're Being Mean, you choose what happens next. Every path leads somewhere different. This is a story for children who are learning that social exclusion is a form of cruelty — and that saying so, even quietly, even once, is one of the bravest things a person can do. The output is your When They're Being Mean Page — the choice you made and what it cost, and what it earned.
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Sample questions
- What do you think the kid who is being left out is feeling while everyone else is laughing?
- What would YOU do if your friends were leaving someone out on purpose — and you were worried that if you said something, you might be next?
- What do you think takes more bravery — saying something out loud, or just walking over and sitting with the person being left out?
Research basis
Olweus (bullying prevention framework) / Dodge (social information processing) / Arsenio (moral emotion and aggression) / Selman (interpersonal negotiation strategies) / Crick & Grotpeter (relational aggression)
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