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When I Get So Mad

Where does the anger come from before it comes out?

The anger did not start when it exploded. You knew that.

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For the child whose anger moves faster than their words and who wants to understand where it comes from before it comes out.

You'll produce:your Your When I Get So Mad Page

The Name It First Experience

It comes out fast. Too fast. Then the anger is everywhere. But where did it come from before it came out? In Your When I Get So Mad Page, you trace the path — the thing before the thing, the feeling under the feeling. A story for children learning to read their own anger like a map.

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Sample questions

  1. What do you think was happening right before the anger came out — the thing that happened before the thing?
  2. What does the anger feel like in your body before it comes out?
  3. If you could follow the anger back to where it started, what do you think you'd find?

Research basis

Siegel (2012) whole-brain child applied to anger as signal / Greene (2014) collaborative and proactive solutions for explosive behavior / Porges polyvagal theory applied to child anger escalation / Gottman emotion coaching applied to naming anger triggers with children

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