Workbook
What They're Not Telling You
A Workbook for Young Men on Identity, Anger, and What Makes a Man Worth Knowing
A lot of people will tell you what a man is. This is where you decide.
For the young man who is figuring out what he believes about manhood in a moment when the competing models are loud, conflicting, and rarely his to decide.
The Name It First Experience
The conversation about manhood is everywhere and most of it wants something from you before it tells you anything true. This workbook asks you to examine what you were taught about being a man, where that came from, and whether you have decided what you believe or absorbed it. You will build Your Truth Inventory: the named truths about what you were handed and what you are choosing to keep. The output is not a lesson about masculinity. It is your decision about it.
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Sample questions
- What truth have you been circling — the thing you know about yourself, your anger, or what you want from life that you have been approaching but not yet landing on directly?
- What are you being told by the culture, the feed, or the men around you about what being a man means — and what do you actually think when you slow down and look at it?
- What would Your Identity Record say — clearly and without performance — about who you actually are, what you are actually angry about, and what kind of man you want to become?
Research basis
Kimmel on masculinity as socialized performance / Pollack on the boy code and suppression of emotional expression / Erikson on identity versus role confusion / Marcia on identity status and the difference between foreclosed and achieved identity.
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