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The Sober Relationship Workbook
Partnership Without the Substance That Used to Be in the Room
You both changed. The relationship has not caught up yet. This is how you close that gap.
For the couple where one or both partners are in recovery — discovering that sobriety changes the relationship in ways nobody quite warned them about, and working through what partnership looks like now.
The Name It First Experience
Recovery changes everything — including the relationship. The dynamics that formed around active use do not automatically dissolve when sobriety begins. The partner who carried the household. The person in recovery who is changing. The relationship built on patterns that no longer fit. All of this requires renegotiation. This workbook gives couples the explicit conversation recovery relationships require. Grounded in EFT and attachment research. The output is not a recovery plan. It is The Sober Relationship Agreement.
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Sample questions
- What does each of you need now that neither of you needed before?
- What does your relationship need to become that it wasn't before?
- What has sobriety made possible for your relationship that wasn't possible before?
- What has changed in your relationship since sobriety — and what is still healing?
Research basis
Gottman (relationship maintenance) / Bowlby (attachment and recovery) / McCrady (behavioral couples therapy for addiction) / O'Farrell (couples and addiction recovery) / Brown (vulnerability and connection in recovery)
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The Essential path takes you to your finished document by the questions that matter most. The Full-depth path walks every question, every scenario, every angle. Both produce the same signed document — one just goes deeper on the way there.
Essential path
Shorter sessions. The questions that go directly to the document.
Full depth
Every question. Every scenario, every angle.
Partner Pair
Built for two. You each work your own copy, on your own time — then you bring them together and compare, one answer at a time.
The comparison is the conversation.
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