NAME IT FIRST

Workbook

The Sibling Workbook

A Workbook for the Relationship That Formed You Before You Could Choose It

You did not choose each other. You can still choose what comes next.

This is for:

For the adult sibling tired of operating inside childhood roles that no one agreed to keep — and ready to put the real relationship on paper.

You'll produce:your Sibling Shared Agreement

The Name It First Experience

You and your sibling are still running childhood roles nobody agreed to keep. This workbook walks you through the unspoken ledgers and inherited assignments. You produce the Sibling Shared Agreement: a signed document naming care share, boundaries, communication rules, and renegotiation scripts. The output is not nostalgia. It is an adult relationship.

You can opt into 30-, 60-, and 90-day check-ins from your account. We recommend you do — the point is to see what changed.

Sample questions

  1. What is the memory that belongs only to the two of you — the thing from growing up that only you and your sibling share, that no one else was inside?
  2. What pattern from childhood are you and your sibling still playing out with each other as adults — the dynamic that formed before either of you could name it?
  3. What would The Sibling Record say — honestly — about this relationship, what it has been, what it costs, and what you want it to be?

Research basis

Bowen (family systems, sibling subsystems) / Bedford & Avioli (adult sibling dynamics) / White & Epston (narrative therapy, re-authoring)

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Every format asks the same questions and produces the same document.

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A real book and a pen. Write in the margins. The most permanent version of you on a page.

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eBook + journal

The full guide on any screen, with a companion journal to write your answers by hand.

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Audiobook

We read every question and every scenario aloud. For the commute, the walk, the dishes.

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The keepsake edition — sewn, ribboned, made to sit on a shelf and be returned to.

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Answer on screen. Your responses save as you go and assemble into your finished document.

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Hands-Free Interactive + membership+membership

Listen to each question and speak your answer. We capture it. You never touch a keyboard.

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Choose your pace.

The Essential path takes you to your finished document by the questions that matter most. The Full-depth path walks every question, every scenario, every angle. Both produce the same signed document — one just goes deeper on the way there.

Essential path

Shorter sessions. The questions that go directly to the document.

Full depth

Every question. Every scenario, every angle.

Paper doesn’t change its mind.

Thoughts change. Documents don’t. The answers you write are there when you return — unchanged by memory or mood.

You won’t just feel clearer — you’ll have written proof of what you decided.

Writing is the mechanism by which internal clarity becomes external evidence. Evidence you can return to, share, and hold someone — including yourself — accountable to.

Every question is answerable by everyone.

Every question in every title is answerable by the person for whom the assumed experience is true and by the person for whom it is not. No reader is excluded by how a question is built.

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