Guide
The Pre-Mediation Workbook
What You Want, What You Need, and What You'll Accept — Named Before the Room
The person who arrives knowing what they want does not leave having taken what they were given.
For the person entering mediation who wants to know what they want, what they will accept, and what they will not — before the room decides for them.
The Name It First Experience
The person who walks into mediation knowing their priorities, non-negotiables, and acceptable outcomes gets results that reflect their actual interests. The person who walks in hoping it will work out gets outcomes shaped by whoever was better prepared. This prep sheet gives you the structure to know all three before you arrive. The output is not legal advice. It is The Pre-Mediation Agreement — your position, named before the room.
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Sample questions
- What outcome do you most need from this mediation — and what would you be willing to accept?
- What does a fair resolution look like from where you stand?
- What do you most need the other party to understand about your experience?
- What are your actual priorities — the ones that matter most regardless of what else gets resolved?
Research basis
Fisher and Ury principled negotiation / mediation preparation effectiveness research / BATNA framework / Mnookin barriers to conflict resolution
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