Workbook
The Pre-Commitment Workbook
A Secular Partnership Workbook for Couples Who Want to Decide on Purpose
This workbook produces a signed pre-commitment agreement — the actual terms of the partnership you are choosing.
For the couple preparing to commit — engagement, cohabitation, or any formal partnership — who wants to decide on shared terms, not assumed ones.
The Name It First Experience
Every lasting partnership is built on terms you choose together — this workbook is where you choose them. The Pre-Commitment Workbook takes you through the real decisions couples rarely make explicitly: shared values, money, household labor, conflict rules, and the shape of the life you are building. It is written for couples at the threshold of commitment — engaged, cohabitating, or entering any formal partnership — who want their agreement to reflect what they actually believe. You finish with a signed Pre-Commitment Agreement in your own words.
You can opt into 30-, 60-, and 90-day check-ins from your account. We recommend you do — the point is to see what changed.
Sample questions
- What are you actually agreeing to — and have you said it out loud in plain language?
- What makes you happy about this person that is not performance — the thing you see when they are not trying to impress you?
- What do you need from a partnership that you have never specifically named?
Research basis
Grounded in Stanley et al. (2010) research on commitment decision-making and inertia effects / Willoughby et al. (2015) on premarital clarity and long-term relationship quality / Larson and Holman (1994) on predictive factors in relationship success identified before formal commitment.
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A real book and a pen. Write in the margins. The most permanent version of you on a page.
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The full guide on any screen, with a companion journal to write your answers by hand.
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Audiobook
We read every question and every scenario aloud. For the commute, the walk, the dishes.
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The keepsake edition — sewn, ribboned, made to sit on a shelf and be returned to.
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Digital Fill + membership+membership
Answer on screen. Your responses save as you go and assemble into your finished document.
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Hands-Free Interactive + membership+membership
Listen to each question and speak your answer. We capture it. You never touch a keyboard.
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The Essential path takes you to your finished document by the questions that matter most. The Full-depth path walks every question, every scenario, every angle. Both produce the same signed document — one just goes deeper on the way there.
Essential path
Shorter sessions. The questions that go directly to the document.
Full depth
Every question. Every scenario, every angle.
Partner Pair
Built for two. You each work your own copy, on your own time — then you bring them together and compare, one answer at a time.
The comparison is the conversation.
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