Guide
The Pre-Commitment Prep Sheet
The 12 Questions to Answer Before You Say Yes
The best commitments are made by people who asked the questions first.
For the person on the edge of a big yes who wants the questions answered before they say it.
The Name It First Experience
A commitment is not a feeling. It is a decision — and decisions go better when they are informed. These 12 questions surface what you already know but may not have articulated: what you are agreeing to, what you need from a partner, what you can live with, and what you cannot. Answer them before the commitment and you are making a choice. Answer them after and you are making a discovery. At the end, you'll have The Pre-Commitment Prep Sheet Agreement. The output is not a compatibility report. It is a readiness document.
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Sample questions
- Name what you know about this person — the things you are certain of — and describe what that certainty is based on.
- What do you need from a long-term partner that you haven't explicitly asked this person for — and do they know?
- What are you choosing when you make this commitment — and what are you choosing to live with?
Research basis
Gottman Sound Relationship House framework applied to pre-commitment readiness / attachment theory on partner selection patterns / Finkel suffocation model of modern marriage on expectation alignment.
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