Card Game
The Partnership Conversation Deck
52 Questions for Couples Who Want Named Terms
Each card is designed to surface what couples circle without saying — and move toward named terms.
For couples who want structured conversation starters grounded in attachment theory, conflict research, and values discovery.
The Name It First Experience
Every couple has things they circle without saying — this deck is where they say them. The Partnership Conversation Deck delivers 52 questions grounded in attachment theory, conflict research, and values discovery — each one designed to open the conversation couples have been having around the edges of for years. It is for the couple who talks constantly but rarely names what actually matters — who wants to go somewhere real together, one card at a time. You work through it at your own pace and end up with the conversations that move a partnership from assumed to named.
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Sample questions
- What are you not saying — and what would change if you did?
- What do you know about your partner that they do not know you know?
- What have you been waiting for the right moment to say?
Research basis
Grounded in Gottman (1999) couple communication research and Sound Relationship House theory / Bowlby attachment theory applied to partnership / Aron et al. (1997) closeness-generating questions.
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The full guide on any screen, with a companion journal to write your answers by hand.
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Audiobook
We read every question and every scenario aloud. For the commute, the walk, the dishes.
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The keepsake edition — sewn, ribboned, made to sit on a shelf and be returned to.
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Answer on screen. Your responses save as you go and assemble into your finished document.
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Hands-Free Interactive + membership+membership
Listen to each question and speak your answer. We capture it. You never touch a keyboard.
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Choose your pace.
The Essential path takes you to your finished document by the questions that matter most. The Full-depth path walks every question, every scenario, every angle. Both produce the same signed document — one just goes deeper on the way there.
Essential path
Shorter sessions. The questions that go directly to the document.
Full depth
Every question. Every scenario, every angle.
Partner Pair
Built for two. You each work your own copy, on your own time — then you bring them together and compare, one answer at a time.
The comparison is the conversation.
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