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The Open Adoption Workbook
The Relationship That Has No Model
The child is the reason. This is how the adults figure out how to be the reason together.
For the families navigating an open adoption arrangement — adoptive parents, birth parents, and significant figures in the child's extended network — who want the relationship to work and know that wanting it is not enough.
The Name It First Experience
Open adoption has no model. It requires two families — who came together through a circumstance neither planned — to build a relationship they were not prepared for, in service of a child who needs all of them. The families who sustain open adoptions well are the ones who name the relationship explicitly: what contact looks like, what roles the birth parents hold, what happens as the child grows. This workbook gives open adoption families that conversation. The output is not a contact schedule. It is The Open Adoption Agreement.
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Sample questions
- What does the open adoption relationship need to work for the child at the center of it?
- What are you hoping for from this relationship, and what are you afraid of?
- What happens when something in the arrangement stops working as the child grows?
- What hasn't been said yet between the families that needs to be part of the agreement?
Research basis
Open adoption research (Grotevant, McRoy) / adoption triad dynamics / contact agreement studies / family boundary management in open adoption
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