Workbook
The Long Marriage
A Workbook for Couples Who Have Done This for 20+ Years and Want to Keep Doing It Well
You know where they are at any given time. You do not know who they are becoming.
For the couple who has been together 20+ years, built a life on autopilot, and wants to consciously choose each other again — not out of obligation but because they both still want to.
The Name It First Experience
After 20 years, you know each other. You built a life. But the intentionality stopped. You fell into grooves. This workbook is for the couple past crisis — past deciding whether to stay — ready for what comes next. You leave with Your Second-Half Partnership Charter. The output is not a relationship assessment. It is a signed agreement for the partnership you are choosing now.
You can opt into 30-, 60-, and 90-day check-ins from your account. We recommend you do — the point is to see what changed.
Sample questions
- What do you call the thing that happens between you and your partner that looks like routine but is actually disconnection?
- When did you last surprise each other — and what made that possible?
- What does the Second-Half Partnership Charter need to say about who you both are now, that wasn't true 20 years ago?
Research basis
Attachment theory (Bowlby, Levant), emotional regulation and repair, relational intimacy theory, life course theory, meaning-making in enduring partnerships, vulnerability research (Brown), Gottman research on stable couples who stay satisfied, narrative therapy
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Every format asks the same questions and produces the same document.
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A real book and a pen. Write in the margins. The most permanent version of you on a page.
$27.99
eBook + journal
The full guide on any screen, with a companion journal to write your answers by hand.
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Audiobook
We read every question and every scenario aloud. For the commute, the walk, the dishes.
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Hardcoverpersonalize
The keepsake edition — sewn, ribboned, made to sit on a shelf and be returned to.
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Digital Fill + membership+membership
Answer on screen. Your responses save as you go and assemble into your finished document.
$16.99
Hands-Free Interactive + membership+membership
Listen to each question and speak your answer. We capture it. You never touch a keyboard.
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Choose your pace.
The Essential path takes you to your finished document by the questions that matter most. The Full-depth path walks every question, every scenario, every angle. Both produce the same signed document — one just goes deeper on the way there.
Essential path
Shorter sessions. The questions that go directly to the document.
Full depth
Every question. Every scenario, every angle.
Partner Pair
Built for two. You each work your own copy, on your own time — then you bring them together and compare, one answer at a time.
The comparison is the conversation.
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