NAME IT FIRST

Kit

The limit-setting Kit

How to Say No Without Losing the Relationship

No is a complete sentence. This kit gives you many different ways to say it.

This is for:

For the adult who needs to say no and does not know how to start without losing the relationship.

You'll produce:your Limit-Setting Agreement

The Name It First Experience

Saying no does not have to blow things up. This kit gives you the scripts, the practice cards, and the framework to set limits in language the other person can receive — without guilt, without a fight, without losing the relationship. The output is not a list of rules. It is your signed Limit-Setting Agreement.

You can opt into 30-, 60-, and 90-day check-ins from your account. We recommend you do — the point is to see what changed.

Sample questions

  1. What is one concrete step you could take this week to start holding this limit?
  2. What limit do you most need to set right now — and what has stopped you so far?
  3. What are you most afraid will happen if you set this limit — and is that fear based in reality?
  4. What would change in your life if you could set limits without guilt — and do you want that change?

Research basis

Brown boundary research / Bowlby attachment theory applied to limit-setting / assertiveness training research / self-compassion (Neff) and boundary-setting

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Every format asks the same questions and produces the same document.

Print Paperbackpersonalize

A real book and a pen. Write in the margins. The most permanent version of you on a page.

$19.99

eBook + journal

The full guide on any screen, with a companion journal to write your answers by hand.

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Audiobook

We read every question and every scenario aloud. For the commute, the walk, the dishes.

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The keepsake edition — sewn, ribboned, made to sit on a shelf and be returned to.

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Digital Fill + membership+membership

Answer on screen. Your responses save as you go and assemble into your finished document.

$9.99

Hands-Free Interactive + membership+membership

Listen to each question and speak your answer. We capture it. You never touch a keyboard.

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Choose your pace.

The Essential path takes you to your finished document by the questions that matter most. The Full-depth path walks every question, every scenario, every angle. Both produce the same signed document — one just goes deeper on the way there.

Essential path

Shorter sessions. The questions that go directly to the document.

Full depth

Every question. Every scenario, every angle.

Paper doesn’t change its mind.

Thoughts change. Documents don’t. The answers you write are there when you return — unchanged by memory or mood.

You won’t just feel clearer — you’ll have written proof of what you decided.

Writing is the mechanism by which internal clarity becomes external evidence. Evidence you can return to, share, and hold someone — including yourself — accountable to.

Every question is answerable by everyone.

Every question in every title is answerable by the person for whom the assumed experience is true and by the person for whom it is not. No reader is excluded by how a question is built.

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