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Conversation Prep

The 'I'm Not Okay' Conversation Prep Sheet

One Page. Asking for Help From Someone You Love.

You are not okay, and that is a complete sentence.

This is for:

For the person who knows they need help and is struggling to find the first words to ask for it from someone they trust.

You'll produce:your Your Not Okay Conversation Prep

The Name It First Experience

Asking for help is harder than it looks. Especially when you usually have it together. Especially when you are afraid of what the conversation will cost. This is a one-page tool for the moment before you say something. You will build Your Not Okay Conversation Prep Sheet — a document with your first words, your ask, and what you need from the response.

You can opt into 30-, 60-, and 90-day check-ins from your account. We recommend you do — the point is to see what changed.

Sample questions

  1. What are you trying to say — if you could just say it simply, without managing how it lands?
  2. What kind of help are you actually asking for — and what are you afraid of asking for?
  3. What do you need the person you're telling to do — and what do you not want from them?

Research basis

Corrigan on self-stigma and help-seeking barriers / Rickwood et al. on help-seeking behavior in mental health / Vogel et al. on self-disclosure and stigma / Barney et al. on barriers to professional help-seeking

Choose your format.

Every format asks the same questions and produces the same document.

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A real book and a pen. Write in the margins. The most permanent version of you on a page.

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The full guide on any screen, with a companion journal to write your answers by hand.

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Audiobook

We read every question and every scenario aloud. For the commute, the walk, the dishes.

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The keepsake edition — sewn, ribboned, made to sit on a shelf and be returned to.

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Digital Fill + membership+membership

Answer on screen. Your responses save as you go and assemble into your finished document.

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Hands-Free Interactive + membership+membership

Listen to each question and speak your answer. We capture it. You never touch a keyboard.

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Choose your pace.

The Essential path takes you to your finished document by the questions that matter most. The Full-depth path walks every question, every scenario, every angle. Both produce the same signed document — one just goes deeper on the way there.

Essential path

Shorter sessions. The questions that go directly to the document.

Full depth

Every question. Every scenario, every angle.

Paper doesn’t change its mind.

Thoughts change. Documents don’t. The answers you write are there when you return — unchanged by memory or mood.

You won’t just feel clearer — you’ll have written proof of what you decided.

Writing is the mechanism by which internal clarity becomes external evidence. Evidence you can return to, share, and hold someone — including yourself — accountable to.

Every question is answerable by everyone.

Every question in every title is answerable by the person for whom the assumed experience is true and by the person for whom it is not. No reader is excluded by how a question is built.

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