Workbook
The Household Constitution
A Workbook for Anyone Who Shares a Home and Wants It to Work
The argument isn't about the dishes. It's about what was never agreed to.
Anyone sharing a home — romantic partners moving in together, roommates splitting rent, adult siblings or friends co-habiting, or anyone whose informal household arrangements have started to cause friction.
The Name It First Experience
Every shared home runs on invisible rules. Someone does the dishes because they always have. Someone pays the internet because they set it up. Someone gets the big room because they got there first. None of it was decided. It was just assumed. And assumptions, left unexamined, become resentments. The Household Constitution is a structured working session for anyone who shares a home and wants it to actually work. You'll name the things everyone has been tiptoeing around — who owns what, who handles what, how costs get split, what guests are allowed, and what to do when the arrangement stops being fair. The work is yours to do. This is where you write it down. The output is The Household Constitution: a signed document governing shared space, shared resources, shared responsibility, and what happens when the agreement needs to change.
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Sample questions
- What is the household arrangement that has never been officially decided but that everyone is currently operating as if it has been?
- What is the friction point in your shared home that keeps coming back — and what assumption is underneath it that has never been named directly?
- What would The Household Constitution need to include — clearly and in writing — for everyone in your home to feel like the agreement is actually fair?
Research basis
Grounded in Gottman's research on the Four Horsemen (criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling) and the role of explicit agreements in reducing contempt triggers / NVC's framework of needs and requests as the basis for workable household rules / and co-habitation research showing that couples who discuss logistics before moving in together report significantly higher relationship satisfaction at 12 months.
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The Essential path takes you to your finished document by the questions that matter most. The Full-depth path walks every question, every scenario, every angle. Both produce the same signed document — one just goes deeper on the way there.
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Shorter sessions. The questions that go directly to the document.
Full depth
Every question. Every scenario, every angle.
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Built for two. You each work your own copy, on your own time — then you bring them together and compare, one answer at a time.
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