Kit
The Hard Conversation Prep Kit
Scripts for the Conversations You've Been Avoiding
You are not afraid of the conversation. You are afraid of what you hear back.
For the person who has been avoiding a conversation that needs to happen with a partner, family member, or someone they care about, and needs a way to prepare rather than rehearse or walk in cold.
The Name It First Experience
Most hard conversations fail because neither person knew what they were trying to say before they started. The Hard Conversation Prep Agreement fixes that. This kit walks you through what you need to communicate, what you are afraid of, what the other person needs to hear, and what a realistic outcome looks like. One pass. One document. Then you go have the conversation.
You can opt into 30-, 60-, and 90-day check-ins from your account. We recommend you do — the point is to see what changed.
Sample questions
- What do you need to say that is separate from blame — the need, the request, the actual thing?
- Describe how you want to begin this conversation — the first sentence, the tone, the opening you want.
- What is the conversation you need to have — and what is making it hard to start?
- What are you afraid will happen if you have this conversation — and how likely is that really?
Research basis
Rosenberg's Nonviolent Communication framework on expressing needs without blame / Gottman's research on soft startups and conversation outcomes / Stone, Patton, and Heen's Difficult Conversations framework from the Harvard Negotiation Project / Patterson and colleagues on Crucial Conversations preparation
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Every format asks the same questions and produces the same document.
Print Paperbackpersonalize
A real book and a pen. Write in the margins. The most permanent version of you on a page.
$19.99
eBook + journal
The full guide on any screen, with a companion journal to write your answers by hand.
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Audiobook
We read every question and every scenario aloud. For the commute, the walk, the dishes.
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Hardcoverpersonalize
The keepsake edition — sewn, ribboned, made to sit on a shelf and be returned to.
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Digital Fill + membership+membership
Answer on screen. Your responses save as you go and assemble into your finished document.
$9.99
Hands-Free Interactive + membership+membership
Listen to each question and speak your answer. We capture it. You never touch a keyboard.
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Choose your pace.
The Essential path takes you to your finished document by the questions that matter most. The Full-depth path walks every question, every scenario, every angle. Both produce the same signed document — one just goes deeper on the way there.
Essential path
Shorter sessions. The questions that go directly to the document.
Full depth
Every question. Every scenario, every angle.
Partner Pair
Built for two. You each work your own copy, on your own time — then you bring them together and compare, one answer at a time.
The comparison is the conversation.
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