NAME IT FIRST

Interactive

The Friend Who Changed

Someone you love started acting different and you don't know why.

Something changed and you noticed first. That matters.

This is for:

For the child watching a friend become someone they don't recognize and trying to figure out whether to ask, wait, or tell an adult.

You'll produce:your The Friend Who Changed Page

The Name It First Experience

Your friend used to be first at recess. Now they sit alone. Something changed and nobody is saying what. In The Friend Who Changed Page, you decide — ask directly, tell an adult, or keep showing up. A story for children learning that caring about someone who is struggling looks different from caring about someone who is fine.

You can opt into 30-, 60-, and 90-day check-ins from your account. We recommend you do — the point is to see what changed.

Sample questions

  1. What do you think is the difference between a friend going through something hard and a friend who might need grown-up help?
  2. What would YOU do if your friend started acting really different and wouldn't tell you why?
  3. What do you think it means to keep showing up for someone even when they're not acting like themselves?

Research basis

Selman (1980) interpersonal understanding development in children / Crick and Dodge (1994) social information processing applied to peer concern / Thompson (1994) emotion regulation development / Collaborative for Academic Social and Emotional Learning peer awareness frameworks

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The full guide on any screen, with a companion journal to write your answers by hand.

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We read every question and every scenario aloud. For the commute, the walk, the dishes.

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The keepsake edition — sewn, ribboned, made to sit on a shelf and be returned to.

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Answer on screen. Your responses save as you go and assemble into your finished document.

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Hands-Free Interactive + membership+membership

Listen to each question and speak your answer. We capture it. You never touch a keyboard.

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The Essential path takes you to your finished document by the questions that matter most. The Full-depth path walks every question, every scenario, every angle. Both produce the same signed document — one just goes deeper on the way there.

Essential path

Shorter sessions. The questions that go directly to the document.

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Every question. Every scenario, every angle.

Paper doesn’t change its mind.

Thoughts change. Documents don’t. The answers you write are there when you return — unchanged by memory or mood.

You won’t just feel clearer — you’ll have written proof of what you decided.

Writing is the mechanism by which internal clarity becomes external evidence. Evidence you can return to, share, and hold someone — including yourself — accountable to.

Every question is answerable by everyone.

Every question in every title is answerable by the person for whom the assumed experience is true and by the person for whom it is not. No reader is excluded by how a question is built.

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