Journal
The First 90 Days Journal
Daily Practice for the First Three Months of a New Relationship
The person you're dating is showing you who they are. This is where you write it down.
For the person in a new relationship who wants a private daily practice for capturing what they are noticing before chemistry decides for them.
The Name It First Experience
The first three months of a relationship are full of information. Most people process it through conversation or in their own heads. This journal gives you a daily practice for capturing what you are noticing, before chemistry decides for you. You produce Your First 90 Days Record: a written account of the formative window in your own words. The output is not overthinking. It is attention.
You can opt into 30-, 60-, and 90-day check-ins from your account. We recommend you do — the point is to see what changed.
Sample questions
- What have you observed about this person in the first few weeks that you want to document before the newness fades and you stop noticing?
- What are you discovering about yourself through this relationship — the thing this person is showing you that you did not see before?
- What would the First 90 Days Record capture about this partnership that you would want to read five years from now?
Research basis
Gottman (early relationship formation) / Bowlby (secure base) / Fletcher & Simpson (relationship initiation, partner evaluation)
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Every format asks the same questions and produces the same document.
Print Paperbackpersonalize
A real book and a pen. Write in the margins. The most permanent version of you on a page.
$16.99
eBook + journal
The full guide on any screen, with a companion journal to write your answers by hand.
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Audiobook
We read every question and every scenario aloud. For the commute, the walk, the dishes.
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Hardcoverpersonalize
The keepsake edition — sewn, ribboned, made to sit on a shelf and be returned to.
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Digital Fill + membership+membership
Answer on screen. Your responses save as you go and assemble into your finished document.
$9.99
Hands-Free Interactive + membership+membership
Listen to each question and speak your answer. We capture it. You never touch a keyboard.
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Choose your pace.
The Essential path takes you to your finished document by the questions that matter most. The Full-depth path walks every question, every scenario, every angle. Both produce the same signed document — one just goes deeper on the way there.
Essential path
Shorter sessions. The questions that go directly to the document.
Full depth
Every question. Every scenario, every angle.
Partner Pair
Built for two. You each work your own copy, on your own time — then you bring them together and compare, one answer at a time.
The comparison is the conversation.
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