NAME IT FIRST

Conversation Prep

The Family Boundaries Conversation Prep Sheet

One Page. Before the Holiday. Not After.

You know what needs to be said. You have not had the page to write it on until now.

This is for:

For the adult who has spent years managing a family dynamic in silence and wants to name the boundary before the next holiday, visit, or phone call.

You'll produce:your Your Boundaries Prep Sheet

The Name It First Experience

The holiday is coming. So is the conversation you have been avoiding. Your Boundaries Prep Sheet gives you one structured hour to name the boundary, draft the words, and prepare for the pushback. Walk in with language. Walk out having said the thing.

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Sample questions

  1. What is the boundary you need to set — said plainly, without softening it?
  2. What are you most afraid of in having this conversation?
  3. What do you need to hold onto when they push back or don't respond the way you hoped?

Research basis

Cloud and Townsend boundaries framework applied to family systems / Gottman repair attempts research / Bowen family systems theory on differentiation / Harriet Lerner dance of connection applied to limit-setting conversations

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Every format asks the same questions and produces the same document.

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We read every question and every scenario aloud. For the commute, the walk, the dishes.

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Answer on screen. Your responses save as you go and assemble into your finished document.

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Listen to each question and speak your answer. We capture it. You never touch a keyboard.

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The Essential path takes you to your finished document by the questions that matter most. The Full-depth path walks every question, every scenario, every angle. Both produce the same signed document — one just goes deeper on the way there.

Essential path

Shorter sessions. The questions that go directly to the document.

Full depth

Every question. Every scenario, every angle.

Paper doesn’t change its mind.

Thoughts change. Documents don’t. The answers you write are there when you return — unchanged by memory or mood.

You won’t just feel clearer — you’ll have written proof of what you decided.

Writing is the mechanism by which internal clarity becomes external evidence. Evidence you can return to, share, and hold someone — including yourself — accountable to.

Every question is answerable by everyone.

Every question in every title is answerable by the person for whom the assumed experience is true and by the person for whom it is not. No reader is excluded by how a question is built.

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