Workbook
The Attachment Styles Couples Workbook
For Couples Who Know Their Styles and Want to Build Security Together
Couples leave with a signed agreement naming exactly how each partner builds security for the other.
For the couple who can name their attachment styles but has never translated that knowledge into specific agreements about how they show up for each other.
The Name It First Experience
Knowing your attachment style is the beginning — this workbook is where you build on it. The Attachment Styles Couples Workbook moves through what each style actually needs, what activates it, and what your partner can do in real moments to create the security you both want. It is for couples who can already name their patterns but have never translated that understanding into specific agreements about how they show up for each other. You finish with a signed Attachment Security Agreement naming the concrete ways each of you builds safety in this relationship.
You can opt into 30-, 60-, and 90-day check-ins from your account. We recommend you do — the point is to see what changed.
Sample questions
- What does your attachment style produce in your partner — not theoretically, but in the moments when it shows up most?
- What do you need from this relationship to feel secure — specifically, not generally?
- What makes you happy in this relationship that you have never connected to your attachment needs?
Research basis
Grounded in Bowlby (1988) attachment theory and Hazan and Shaver (1987) extension to adult romantic relationships / Mikulincer and Shaver (2007) research on attachment system activation in partnership conflict / Main and Goldwyn (1984) on earned security and the capacity for attachment style revision in adulthood.
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The Essential path takes you to your finished document by the questions that matter most. The Full-depth path walks every question, every scenario, every angle. Both produce the same signed document — one just goes deeper on the way there.
Essential path
Shorter sessions. The questions that go directly to the document.
Full depth
Every question. Every scenario, every angle.
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Built for two. You each work your own copy, on your own time — then you bring them together and compare, one answer at a time.
The comparison is the conversation.
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