NAME IT FIRST

Workbook

Starting Over for Men

A Recovery Workbook for Men Rebuilding After Divorce or Separation

The marriage is over. That does not tell you who you are. This does.

This is for:

For the man in the months following divorce or separation who needs a structure for figuring out who he is now.

You'll produce:your The Post-Divorce Blueprint

The Name It First Experience

Most post-divorce resources for men are legal checklists or pep talks. This workbook is the inner work, structured. You document what the marriage was, what you brought to it, and who you are now that it is over. You produce Your Post-Divorce Blueprint: a signed document naming your identity, your fathering strategy, and your social scaffolding. The output is not moving on. It is knowing who you are.

You can opt into 30-, 60-, and 90-day check-ins from your account. We recommend you do — the point is to see what changed.

Sample questions

  1. What is the version of yourself that existed inside that relationship — and which parts of it were actually you?
  2. What pattern did you play out in that relationship that you recognize from somewhere earlier in your life?
  3. What does The Post-Divorce Blueprint need to name — honestly — for it to be a real document and not just a list of intentions?

Research basis

Hetherington & Kelly (gendered divorce adjustment) / White & Epston (Narrative Therapy, identity reconstruction) / Tedeschi & Calhoun (Post-Traumatic Growth) / Addis & Mahalik (male help-seeking behavior)

Choose your format.

Every format asks the same questions and produces the same document.

Print Paperbackpersonalize

A real book and a pen. Write in the margins. The most permanent version of you on a page.

$22.99

eBook + journal

The full guide on any screen, with a companion journal to write your answers by hand.

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Audiobook

We read every question and every scenario aloud. For the commute, the walk, the dishes.

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The keepsake edition — sewn, ribboned, made to sit on a shelf and be returned to.

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Digital Fill + membership+membership

Answer on screen. Your responses save as you go and assemble into your finished document.

$12.99

Hands-Free Interactive + membership+membership

Listen to each question and speak your answer. We capture it. You never touch a keyboard.

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Choose your pace.

The Essential path takes you to your finished document by the questions that matter most. The Full-depth path walks every question, every scenario, every angle. Both produce the same signed document — one just goes deeper on the way there.

Essential path

Shorter sessions. The questions that go directly to the document.

Full depth

Every question. Every scenario, every angle.

Paper doesn’t change its mind.

Thoughts change. Documents don’t. The answers you write are there when you return — unchanged by memory or mood.

You won’t just feel clearer — you’ll have written proof of what you decided.

Writing is the mechanism by which internal clarity becomes external evidence. Evidence you can return to, share, and hold someone — including yourself — accountable to.

Every question is answerable by everyone.

Every question in every title is answerable by the person for whom the assumed experience is true and by the person for whom it is not. No reader is excluded by how a question is built.

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