Prep Sheet

How to Ask Someone to Go to Therapy

A Prep Sheet for the Conversation That Could Change Everything

This prep sheet produces a plan for the conversation — what you need to say and how to say it.

This is for:

For the person who wants their partner, parent, child, or friend to go to therapy and doesn't know how to say it.

You'll produce:your Your Therapy Conversation Plan

The Name It First Experience

The conversation about therapy is not the easy one — this prep sheet is where you prepare to have it. How to Ask Someone to Go to Therapy walks you through what you actually need them to hear, what you are afraid to say, and how to put the conversation in words that land without triggering the defenses that have stopped it before. It is for the person who has watched someone they love struggle without help — a partner, parent, child, or friend — and has not yet found a way to say it that the other person could actually receive. You finish with a written conversation plan — what you need to say, how you want to say it, and the specific words you are ready to use.

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Sample questions

  1. What have you noticed about this person that makes you believe therapy would help them?
  2. What do you need them to hear — and what do you most want to say that you have not yet said?
  3. What outcome are you hoping for from this conversation — and what are you prepared to do if they say no?

Research basis

Grounded in Gottman (1999) couple communication research / motivational interviewing (Miller & Rollnick, 2002) applied to reluctant therapeutic engagement / psychoeducational frameworks for normalizing therapy.

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