Workbook
How to Ask For What You Need
A Workbook for the Conversation You've Been Avoiding
The ask you have been carrying deserves a plan — this workbook builds it.
For the person who needs something from someone and has not found the words or the steps to ask.
The Name It First Experience
You know what you need. You just have not found the words — or the courage — to ask for it yet. How to Ask For What You Need is a workbook for the conversation you have been putting off: the one where you name a real need, identify the person who can meet it, and build a plan to ask. Not as an exercise in assertiveness. Not as a script to memorize. As a structured process that takes your specific unmade request and turns it into a written plan you can actually follow. It is for the person carrying a need they have not named out loud — to a partner, a manager, a parent, a friend, or themselves. You finish with Your Ask Plan: what you need, who holds it, what you are afraid of, and how to ask.
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Sample questions
- What do you need that you have not asked for — and what has stopped you from asking?
- What makes you happy right now that depends on someone else knowing what you need?
- What would you ask for if you were not afraid of the answer?
Research basis
White & Epston (narrative therapy/externalizing needs) / Deci & Ryan (self-determination theory/autonomy and relatedness) / Linehan (interpersonal effectiveness skills) / Rosenberg (nonviolent communication) / Bandura (self-efficacy and assertiveness)
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