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For Perfectionists
The Standard That's Killing You
The standard is real. The punishment for missing it is optional. This workbook helps you know the difference.
For the Adults who identify as perfectionists — including high achievers who are exhausted by their own standards; those who procrastinate because starting means failing; people whose self-worth is built on output rather than being.
The Name It First Experience
Perfectionism looks like high standards from the outside. From the inside, it feels like a trap. This workbook names who you are when the standard isn't running the show — and what you can build from that person. The Perfectionists Identity Charter is yours when you finish.
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Sample questions
- What has perfectionism cost you — something you can be honest about?
- Where did this come from — and what has examining it shown you?
- What does your perfectionism protect — and is that protection serving you?
- What does good enough feel like for you — and is there a place in your life where you've genuinely found it?
Research basis
Perfectionism research (Hewitt, Flett, Brown): perfectionism has adaptive and maladaptive forms / self-oriented perfectionism with self-compassion produces achievement without burnout. Shame and perfectionism (Brown): perfectionism is a shield against shame — "if I do everything perfectly, I can avoid criticism and judgment." ACEs research (Felitti): perfectionism is correlated with unpredictable or critical childhood environments / identity work addresses the root. Self-Compassion (Neff): self-compassion interventions significantly reduce maladaptive perfectionism without reducing genuine standards. Narrative therapy (White): the perfectionist story is authored in childhood / re-authoring requires naming the story explicitly before changing it.
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