Extension
For People Whose Partner Is Depressed
What to Do When Love Can't Fix It
You can't love it away. But you can stay, and that matters more than you know.
For the People whose partner is experiencing depression — who love them, who are not sure what helps and what makes it worse, and who are carrying more than they show.
The Name It First Experience
When the person you love is depressed, you become the keeper of the household energy, the reader of moods, the person who keeps things going while also being the person who is most worried. Nobody prepared you for what that costs. This extension addresses what it's like to be the partner in that position: what you can do, what you can't, what you need that you're not letting yourself ask for, and what the relationship needs to survive a season like this. Grounded in EFT research on emotional responsiveness under chronic stress and attachment theory's work on how secure bonds hold through one partner's incapacity. At the end, you'll have The People Whose Partner Is Depressed Identity Charter.
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Sample questions
- How are you taking care of yourself while taking care of someone else?
- What keeps you showing up — and what do you hope for when you look ahead?
- What are you most afraid of — and how are you sitting with that fear?
- What would it mean to be present in this relationship without disappearing into it?
Research basis
Grounded in Johnson's EFT research on emotional responsiveness under chronic stress, Bowlby's attachment theory on secure bonds through one partner's incapacity, and Coyne's interpersonal theory of depression.
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