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For People Pleasers
The Yes That Costs Everything
You're responsible for your own life, not everyone's feelings. Different jobs.
For the adult who says yes automatically, feels resentment building, and has been so focused on what everyone else needs that they have lost track of what they need.
The Name It First Experience
For People Pleasers. The yes comes out automatically. The resentment builds slowly. You are so good at taking care of everyone else that you have lost track of how to take care of yourself. This workbook names who you are when you stop organizing around everyone else's needs — and what becomes possible when you do. The output is not a boundary script. It is your People Pleasers Identity Charter.
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Sample questions
- What would you do or say if you knew no one would be disappointed?
- What does it cost you to keep everyone else happy — and are you paying that price willingly?
- Where do you think this pattern comes from — and have you examined that honestly?
- What would it feel like to disappoint someone for a good reason — and can you imagine doing it?
Research basis
Brown on people pleasing and low self-worth / Bowlby and Main attachment theory applied to fawn responses / ACEs research (Felitti) on people pleasing and emotional neglect / Neff self-compassion research / narrative therapy (White) on externalizing the people-pleaser pattern.
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