Extension
For People in Situationships
The Relationship Without a Name — Name It
You named it a situationship because you didn't have words yet. Now you do.
For the person in an undefined arrangement — more than casual, not officially together — who wants clarity about what this is and what each person wants from it.
The Name It First Experience
A situationship is not a failure. It is a relationship without a contract — which means it runs on assumptions, and assumptions are where people get hurt. This extension creates the conversation the arrangement has been avoiding: what each person is feeling, what each person wants, and whether what you have is something you are building or something you are borrowing time in. Grounded in attachment research on anxious-avoidant pairings and frameworks for naming needs without issuing ultimatums. Your Situationship Agreement is yours when you finish. The output is not a label. It is an honest record of what you both want.
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Sample questions
- How long has this been undefined — and how does that feel?
- What are you calling this — in your head, to your friends — and does the name match what it is?
- What are you afraid of naming — and why?
- What would you want this to be if you could choose without worrying about the response?
Research basis
Contemporary relationship ambiguity research / attachment theory applied to ambiguous relationships / Gottman on relationship definition / Stanley and Markman commitment theory.
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