Workbook
For Diplomatic and Military Brat Families
12 Schools in 15 Countries and the Identity You Built From Fragments
You became an expert at starting over. What did that cost—and give?
For the adult who grew up in diplomatic, military, or foreign service families—moving frequently between countries during childhood—who wants to document what that experience built, what it cost, and who they became because of it.
The Name It First Experience
Diplomatic and military brats grow up with one of the world's most specific childhood experiences: constant relocation, international schools, cross-cultural fluency built under pressure, and an identity question—where am I from?—that never has a simple answer. As adults, they carry attachment patterns shaped by repeated loss and a professional adaptability others envy. This workbook examines the whole experience and helps you document it. The output is not a memoir. It is your Diplomatic and Military Brat Identity Document.
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Sample questions
- What does it mean to have grown up in a family that moved because of diplomatic service or military assignment — and how did those moves shape who you are?
- What from your mobile childhood do you now recognize as a distinctive identity — and what parts were hardest?
- What do you want to document about the life your family built across postings and bases — and what do you want the next generation to understand about it?
Research basis
Grounded in Pollock and Van Reken (2009) Third Culture Kids research, Useem (1976) original TCK scholarship, Berry (1997) acculturation theory applied to mobile childhood, and attachment theory frameworks applied to TCK relationship patterns.
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