Kit
For Couples Who Fight About Money
It Was Never About the Money
You're not fighting about money. You're fighting about everything money stands for. This is the conversation that gets to that.
For the Couples who fight about money — not because they disagree about finances, but because money has become the arena where every disagreement about safety, control, values, and power plays out.
The Name It First Experience
The argument is never about the credit card charge. It's about who gets to feel safe, who gets to have control, what abundance means, what scarcity feels like, and what the money behavior of the people who raised you taught you to believe about how life works. This kit creates the conditions for the real conversation — the one underneath the fight — using structured prompts that get past the numbers and into the actual disagreement. Grounded in Gottman's research on money as a perpetual conflict area and NVC's framework for surfacing the need underneath the position. At the end, you'll have The Couples Who Fight About Money Agreement.
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Sample questions
- What do you and the person you're building this with agree on about money — and can you build from there?
- What does money mean to you — not what you spend it on, but what it represents?
- What did money mean in your family growing up — and how does that shape how you handle it now?
- What are you and the person you're building this with truly disagreeing about when money becomes a fight?
Research basis
Grounded in Gottman's research on money as a perpetual conflict area, Rosenberg's NVC framework for surfacing needs underneath positions, and Klontz's financial psychology on money scripts in relationships.
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Built for two. You each work your own copy, on your own time — then you bring them together and compare, one answer at a time.
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