Workbook
For Couples Considering Separation
Before You Decide — The Workbook for the Decision
The question is not whether staying is easy. It is whether this is the relationship you both choose.
For the couple questioning whether to stay together or separate -- not in crisis mode but in the space between, where the decision deserves structure rather than drift.
The Name It First Experience
You are thinking about separation. You might stay, you might leave. But you are tired of the default. The Separation Decision Charter brings clarity to the decision through honest assessment, financial accounting, communication agreements, and a named choice made together. The goal is not to save the relationship. It is to know what is possible.
You can opt into 30-, 60-, and 90-day check-ins from your account. We recommend you do — the point is to see what changed.
Sample questions
- What question are you both actually asking — and is it the same question for each of you?
- What has kept you both in this conversation rather than making the decision by default — and what does that say about what you both still want?
- What would The Couples Considering Separation Charter need to say to be honest — about what you both need, what is possible, and what you are each willing to do?
Research basis
Bowen on family systems and differentiation in couples crisis / Gottman on relationship assessment and the four horsemen / Johnson on emotionally focused therapy and attachment bonds under threat / Kirshenbaum on relationship ambivalence and decision-making frameworks
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A real book and a pen. Write in the margins. The most permanent version of you on a page.
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The full guide on any screen, with a companion journal to write your answers by hand.
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Audiobook
We read every question and every scenario aloud. For the commute, the walk, the dishes.
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The keepsake edition — sewn, ribboned, made to sit on a shelf and be returned to.
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Digital Fill + membership+membership
Answer on screen. Your responses save as you go and assemble into your finished document.
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Hands-Free Interactive + membership+membership
Listen to each question and speak your answer. We capture it. You never touch a keyboard.
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Choose your pace.
The Essential path takes you to your finished document by the questions that matter most. The Full-depth path walks every question, every scenario, every angle. Both produce the same signed document — one just goes deeper on the way there.
Essential path
Shorter sessions. The questions that go directly to the document.
Full depth
Every question. Every scenario, every angle.
Partner Pair
Built for two. You each work your own copy, on your own time — then you bring them together and compare, one answer at a time.
The comparison is the conversation.
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