NAME IT FIRST

Extension

For Black Parents

The Conversation You Have to Have With Your Child

The conversation has no perfect version. It has to happen anyway.

This is for:

For the Black parent who needs to have the conversations with their child about race, safety, and identity — and wants preparation, not a script.

You'll produce:your Your Black Parenting Preparation Guide

The Name It First Experience

You are trying to protect your child from a world you could not protect yourself from. This extension workbook gives you preparation, not a script. You will build Your Black Parenting Preparation Guide — a stress-tested and signed document naming what conversations your child needs and how to have them.

You can opt into 30-, 60-, and 90-day check-ins from your account. We recommend you do — the point is to see what changed.

Sample questions

  1. What did the people who raised you tell you about race and safety — and what do you wish they had said differently?
  2. What does it look like, in practice, to raise a child who is proud of being Black without being burdened by it?
  3. Name the specific things you want your child to know about their identity before the world tells them something else.
  4. What has changed between your childhood and your child's — and what has stayed exactly the same in ways that worry you?

Research basis

Cross on Nigrescence / Anderson on The Talk and Black parenting / Crenshaw on intersectionality / developmental psychology research on racial socialization

Choose your format.

Every format asks the same questions and produces the same document.

Print Paperbackpersonalize

A real book and a pen. Write in the margins. The most permanent version of you on a page.

$19.99

eBook + journal

The full guide on any screen, with a companion journal to write your answers by hand.

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Audiobook

We read every question and every scenario aloud. For the commute, the walk, the dishes.

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Hardcoverpersonalize

The keepsake edition — sewn, ribboned, made to sit on a shelf and be returned to.

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Digital Fill + membership+membership

Answer on screen. Your responses save as you go and assemble into your finished document.

$9.99

Hands-Free Interactive + membership+membership

Listen to each question and speak your answer. We capture it. You never touch a keyboard.

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Choose your pace.

The Essential path takes you to your finished document by the questions that matter most. The Full-depth path walks every question, every scenario, every angle. Both produce the same signed document — one just goes deeper on the way there.

Essential path

Shorter sessions. The questions that go directly to the document.

Full depth

Every question. Every scenario, every angle.

Paper doesn’t change its mind.

Thoughts change. Documents don’t. The answers you write are there when you return — unchanged by memory or mood.

You won’t just feel clearer — you’ll have written proof of what you decided.

Writing is the mechanism by which internal clarity becomes external evidence. Evidence you can return to, share, and hold someone — including yourself — accountable to.

Every question is answerable by everyone.

Every question in every title is answerable by the person for whom the assumed experience is true and by the person for whom it is not. No reader is excluded by how a question is built.

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