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For Adult Children of Alcoholics
The House Rules You Still Follow
The house rules do not apply anymore. This workbook helps you find which ones you kept.
For the adult who grew up with an alcoholic parent and recognizes patterns of control, hypervigilance, or difficulty trusting in themselves.
The Name It First Experience
You didn't grow up in a normal house. You grew up in one where the rules were unspoken, the moods were unpredictable, and everyone was managing something that was never named. This workbook names what that did to your identity — and who you are now that you get to decide. The Adult Children of Alcoholics Identity Charter is yours when you finish.
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Sample questions
- What patterns from your childhood do you still find yourself navigating — and what helps most?
- Who in your life has helped you understand that you deserved better — and what did that do for you?
- What does your life feel like now — and what have you built that you are genuinely proud of?
- What strength do you have specifically because of what you survived?
Research basis
ACoA research (Woititz, Black): adult children of alcoholics show predictable adaptive patterns — hypervigilance, people pleasing, difficulty with trust and intimacy — as products of their family environment. ACEs research (Felitti, Anda): parental alcoholism is an ACE / ACoA patterns are downstream effects of chronic adverse childhood experience. Bowen Family Systems Theory: alcoholic families produce triangulation, emotional cutoff, and enmeshment patterns that persist across generations / differentiation work is the intervention. Narrative therapy (White): the family of origin story becomes the dominant story / re-authoring requires explicit naming of the old story before it can be changed. Self-Compassion (Neff): self-compassion is particularly transformative for ACoAs who learned self-criticism as a survival mechanism.
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