Kit
Conflict + Repair Kit
A Relationship Workbook for When Things Break Down
Every relationship breaks down eventually. What matters is what you do after.
For the couple stuck in the same argument wearing different words — who want to name the pattern, write a repair agreement, and stop circling.
The Name It First Experience
You have had the same fight before. You will have it again unless you name what it is about underneath the words. This kit walks you through a structured post-conflict process: inventory the real pattern, map what each person needed, and draft a written repair. You leave with The Conflict + Repair Kit Agreement.
You can opt into 30-, 60-, and 90-day check-ins from your account. We recommend you do — the point is to see what changed.
Sample questions
- What is the conflict pattern in this relationship that keeps repeating — and what does each of you do when it starts?
- What has never been repaired in this partnership — the rupture that happened and was moved past without being addressed?
- What would The Conflict and Repair Agreement need to say for both of you to feel like it reflects how you actually want to handle things going wrong?
Research basis
Gottman on repair attempts and the four horsemen of relational conflict / Johnson emotionally focused therapy research on attachment injuries / Christensen and Jacobson integrative behavioral couple therapy
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Every format asks the same questions and produces the same document.
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A real book and a pen. Write in the margins. The most permanent version of you on a page.
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eBook + journal
The full guide on any screen, with a companion journal to write your answers by hand.
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Audiobook
We read every question and every scenario aloud. For the commute, the walk, the dishes.
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Hardcoverpersonalize
The keepsake edition — sewn, ribboned, made to sit on a shelf and be returned to.
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Digital Fill + membership+membership
Answer on screen. Your responses save as you go and assemble into your finished document.
$9.99
Hands-Free Interactive + membership+membership
Listen to each question and speak your answer. We capture it. You never touch a keyboard.
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The Essential path takes you to your finished document by the questions that matter most. The Full-depth path walks every question, every scenario, every angle. Both produce the same signed document — one just goes deeper on the way there.
Essential path
Shorter sessions. The questions that go directly to the document.
Full depth
Every question. Every scenario, every angle.
Partner Pair
Built for two. You each work your own copy, on your own time — then you bring them together and compare, one answer at a time.
The comparison is the conversation.
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