Conversation Prep
Before the Money Conversation
A 15-Minute Prep for Talking About Finances
This prep surfaces what the money fight is really about — before you walk into the room.
For the couple about to talk about money.
The Name It First Experience
The fight about the numbers is usually about what the numbers mean — this prep names both. Before the Money Conversation walks you through what the money talk is actually about for you: what you are afraid of, what you need them to hear, and what the real disagreement is underneath the line items. It is for the person about to have a money conversation who wants to stop having the same one over and over. You finish ready to say the actual thing, not just the numbers.
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Sample questions
- What is the money conversation you keep having instead of the real one — and what is the real one?
- What do you need your partner to understand about what money means to you that you have not said directly?
- What would a good outcome from this conversation look like — specifically?
Research basis
Grounded in Vogler (2005) couple money conflict research / Gottman (1999) on financial conversations as high-stakes couple conflict / behavioral economics of joint financial decision-making in couples.
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We read every question and every scenario aloud. For the commute, the walk, the dishes.
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Answer on screen. Your responses save as you go and assemble into your finished document.
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Listen to each question and speak your answer. We capture it. You never touch a keyboard.
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The Essential path takes you to your finished document by the questions that matter most. The Full-depth path walks every question, every scenario, every angle. Both produce the same signed document — one just goes deeper on the way there.
Essential path
Shorter sessions. The questions that go directly to the document.
Full depth
Every question. Every scenario, every angle.
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Built for two. You each work your own copy, on your own time — then you bring them together and compare, one answer at a time.
The comparison is the conversation.
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